Wednesday, March 31, 2021

Private people

 It’s another beautiful day here, a bit cooler in temps than I like but that’s ok...I have things I can do inside. Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about privacy and private people..private people are so misunderstood. They are often thought of as they have something to hide, they are anti social, maybe mentally ill...most outgoing people just can’t grasp that private people are just that...private! We simply enjoy our own company, we don’t think it necessary to share every aspect our our life with just everyone. Often times however private people have withdrawn due to bad experiences with others. Maybe they were bullied, or as a child they never felt heard so they just figure why speak or share...most are introverts that struggle with to much stimulation around them. They are often misjudged as being stuck up or not friendly. That is rarely the case. Most private introverted people have a lot to say. Most are intelligent and well studied. Why? Well, because we spend a great deal of time in our heads and reading anything we can find on any subject that sparks our interest. Private people find peace in their privacy. They enjoy just existing in peace and quiet and as little drama as possible. When drama does arise for them it’s absolutely horrific...they struggle immensely with getting settled again. Their privacy is their sanctuary. When someone pushes them to share aspects their life it is very off putting. I was told not long ago it was hard to be my friend because I was “closed off”. That really stung and I can’t get those words off my mind. The truth is I am a very loyal friend. I keep what you tell me to myself. I value your privacy as I value mine. I don’t understand why people feel as though you have to share all details of your life to be a friend. When I have tried to open up and discuss what’s important to me I get ignored or glossed over. So that tells me that  person is not someone really wanting to be my friend but to pry and be nosey. I’m not good with  small talk....I like deep meaningful conversation...that’s hard to find in the world we live in...I prefer phone calls to text or private messenging and in our electronic world no one does that much anymore...that’s hard for me too ...I guess when I blog I can put it all out there and feel ok with it. I always ask the “powers that be” to send even one person that needs to read what I write to make them feel better and know they are not alone.  If you read this and can relate feel free to comment and let me know! It’s always nice knowing others get it.

Until Next Time...

Remember it’s ok to be you!

Saturday, March 27, 2021

Unplug and find peace


This morning I got up extra early and started my day. It was quiet in the house as I started my coffee. My thoughts were positive and I smiled to myself as I smelled my coffee brewing. I am blessed! As the sun rose so did the dogs so I let them out and it smelled so nice outside, just does my heart good to see the green the grass, the blue sky, to hear the birds singing and my flowers in bloom and smell the earthy smell of springtime. I love my slow paced life and I think I appreciate more this year than I ever have. I had my coffee then ventured out to fill my bird feeders...when it warms a bit more I’ll go sit outside and just enjoy the sunshine. Being outside centers me, it is my home...I think even as a small child I had this odd connection to the outdoors like it’s where I belonged. Amongst the trees there is no judgement, in the woods there is no hate...in nature there is only what is....sitting on the earth there is healing.....it’s just peace...in tune with where you came from...the earth...we are connected...I sit outside barefoot with my feet on the ground, I feel the cool dampness and it awakens my soul with a feeling joy...It grounds me and for that time I am unplugged from all that worries me, all that hurts me, all that brings my heart sadness...I often wish I could stay outside forever in that place...but I can’t, so I enjoy the time I have and carry the peace with me throughout my day...when things bring negativity I often go outside to get away from it...take some time today to be still...to listen to what nature has to say...unplug, sit on the ground barefoot soaking up the sun...be grateful for all that you are and all that you have...and remember YOU are enough!

Until next time...

Love-n-light

Thursday, March 25, 2021

You are enough!


 Hello blog land! Hope your world is going great and you are staying positive and testing negative(for covid) :)

It's been a long but good week here on the homestead. Anytime we learn something it's a good week!

Today I'm going to write about how we view ourselves and our lives. I had a couple of moments this week that really got me into my head and looking at my own shadows and seeing where I need to improve as a person but still remain true to who I am.

 

Late last week I commented in a group for homesteaders about gardening, canning, animal husbandry etc...just talking about what we do here. I never expected a response to my comment as in those groups there are so many people you tend to get lost in the shuffle. But, alas! 2 comments! Both were very positive but also made me think...the comment was "you are living my dream and I am so envious". While I don't condone envy at all, I think its one of the most destructive emotions there is it was a comment that taught me something...

I am a person that never feels good enough, you would think by my age I would have grown beyond that but I haven't, 'an area in my life that needs work, its a constant struggle. I grew up being told all the time I was not enough, I was not like my sister, or my cousin or whoever else they could think of at the time...The work I do is ripe with people not making you feel not good enough...Funny how I picked a line of work that makes me feel like my parents did...I digress....so when I saw this comment it stopped me in my tracks and I sat back and realized how ungrateful I am at times...I really do have a good life....I'm not wealthy, I don't have a fancy home, I don't have perfect kids, or anything that is perfect or even sought after by modern society today...so what do I have? I have a life that I love! A life farm man and I worked so hard to build...we have been through so much, yet here we are, living our dream....I have been lost in the all I don't have mentality I have forgotten to look around and see what I do have! I have so much more than most...It brought me to tears... I love my life...I am away from the hustle and bustle of town or city...My world is quiet, it is peaceful, it is serene...it is what we worked to create....I go into town and it exudes negative energy....all are so rushed and hurried...people are hateful and disrespectful....I rush to get back here....my safe place, my solitude, my absolutely beautiful life....It is slow paced, not hurried...it is quiet not filled with mind numbing noises...it is my heaven on earth....sadly, I had/have let all the 'noise' from others over ride my peace...all the negative comments we all hear daily on the tv, or radio...at work...with our friends and especially social media!....it gets in, it gets in our heads and hearts...we must not let it!

The truth is we will never be enough for some...some will never be able to accept who you are...they expect you to meet their expectations of who you should be...Yes! its hurtful to experience that or to hear comments that you are not what someone thinks you should be....the truth is, until someone walks the path and journey you have walked they have no right to judge where you are or how you are. Our creator created us each very unique...we are all unique because we all have a different purpose to fulfill in this life...my purpose is not yours and yours in not mine...I have my very own personal journey to walk, as do you...I am very private person, always have been...It doesn't make me defective in some way just because I don't share intimate details of my job or life with others...It's who I was created to be...I am a very reflective type person...I also feel things deeply..I tend to absorb other peoples energy, so what may not bother you will bother me for weeks at times until I process through the emotions. I have learned people will judge you no matter what...some will judge you in a positive way like the ladies that commented I was living the dream, they will never know how I really needed to hear/read that! It truly made my heart smile..but also snapped me out of dark place I was in...and then you have those that no matter how kind you are, how much you do or don't do it will never be enough, you will never be enough...But always remember who you are...you know why you are the way you are and if you are like me you are most likely working on it....You are under no obligation what so ever to meet the demands of someones expectations of you...unless of course you are are hurting someone else or breaking the law...I'm talking in terms of being WHO YOU ARE as a person...you are free to be an open book, you are free to be reserved, you are free to share whatever you are comfortable sharing with people and what they read into that is on them...I know for a fact people that do that have their own issues...Had a lady a few months ago accused me of not doing something in my job...she was adamant I did not do this thing...I actually laughed as I read her hateful remarks about me on a public forum...why did I laugh....because all she had to do was go check it out, the information was her fingertips...Sadly, though most people like being mean to others because they have serious self esteem issues...it gives them power...it would blow their power trip all to hell if they knew the truth...there have been judgemental people since the rise of mankind and there will be judgmental people until the demise of mankind...but you don't have to let them get you down...Never ever forget who you are....You are a beautiful soul put on this earth, at this time, in this pandemic to be a light....a beacon...someone that will rise above the shit thrown out there....people that are healers, light workers, different, don't fit the mold...we are ok! You are ok! It's ok to be you and its ok to be me....You may be a quiet, contemplative, reflective person or you may be outgoing and share it all or somewhere in between...BUT YOU MATTER and you were put here for a purpose...you have something to offer every person you meet...its up them if they take whatever you gave them and learn from it....you can't force it...Just be you, do you and the rest will fall into place...As you go about your day...remind yourself you are ok, you are worthy, you are needed, you are what the creator created, that is enough and you are so very loved!

Until next time....

Peace, Love and Light

Tuesday, March 23, 2021

Speaks Volumes

I did not write this - but WOW does it speak to my heart!!!  Worth the read.

Barely the day started and... it's already six in the evening.

Barely arrived on Monday and it's already Friday.

... and the month is already over.

... and the year is almost over.

... and already 40, 50 or 60 years of our lives have passed.

... and we realize that we lost our parents, friends.

and we realize it's too late to go back...

So... Let's try, despite everything, to enjoy the remaining time...

Let's keep looking for activities that we like...

Let's put some color in our grey...

Let's smile at the little things in life that put balm in our hearts.

And despite everything, we must continue to enjoy with serenity this time we have left. Let's try to eliminate the afters...

I'm doing it after...

I'll say after...

I'll think about it after...

We leave everything for later like ′′ after ′′ is ours.

Because what we don't understand is that:

Afterwards, the coffee gets cold...

afterwards, priorities change...

Afterwards, the charm is broken...

afterwards, health passes...

Afterwards, the kids grow up...

Afterwards parents get old...

Afterwards, promises are forgotten...

afterwards, the day becomes the night...

afterwards life ends...

And then it's often too late....

So... Let's leave nothing for later...

Because still waiting see you later, we can lose the best moments,

the best experiences,

best friends,

the best family...

The day is today... The moment is now...

We are no longer at the age where we can afford to postpone what needs to be done right away.

So let's see if you have time to read this message and then share it.

Or maybe you'll leave it for... ′′ later "...

And you'll never share it....

Saturday, February 20, 2021

Just checking in :0)

 We are doing well in spite of the frigid temps and snow. We've stayed home through it all and just enjoyed being quiet. The critters fared well too. In the next couple of days I will be posting some pondering's I've had during this time of being shut in. 

I am looking so forward to spring. We have many plans this year. Our biggest plan is to get our land paid off and then do a complete house remodel. Farm man(hubby) would like to retire from his job and be able to stay home and enjoy the quiet life on the homestead. We can do that if we can get our land paid off this year.

We plan on adding a few more critters this spring...hoping for some baby goats for bottle feeding, a sow and a boar for breeding. We will be processing out one the pigs in the very near future. We will do it all here rather than having it done. Our plan is to turn it all into sausage. Sausage can replace beef in many dishes so that's our plan. I will be documenting it with video as we do it. I think given what we are going through, the pandemic as well as political upheaval it's just time to become as self sufficient as one can be. I used to blog quite often about preparedness on my old blog but over the years just kinda quit. We are still very much into being prepared for mishaps just not the way we once were. Our kids are working on moving over here as well. It will be nice to have the younger men help farm man. As we age things get a bit more difficult, the help will be much appreciated. I think community living with like minded people is a great thing in times of trouble. We all need help and many hands make light work as they say. *smile*. One other plan we have is to begin a you tube channel, a video diary if you will of our homestead endeavors here on our little slice of heaven. We are hoping for projects like a decent sized rain catchment system for the garden, expanding our garden area, planting more fruit trees, adding more bees, etc... we would like to video document our progress on these things. Hope y'all would watch!

Until next time,

Peace, Love and Light

Wednesday, January 27, 2021

Introversion and life

 
Hello again! We are alive and well here on the homestead. We still know people struggling with covid but most are doing well and we are hopeful for a full recovery for all! Positive thoughts and vibes to you all and anyone you know struggling with covid as well!

Over the past weeks i've spent much time in thought...had a discussion with a couple of respected people about introversion. People that are not introverts simply do not understand it. We are not depressed, sad, angry, suffer from social anxiety in the true sense of the word, we don't hate other humans(most days :o). We are simply ok with our own company and with the people that we feel the most comfortable with. I spend tremendous amounts of time at home by choice. I have a vehicle, I have money and I have time to go do things like shopping....I simply don't want to, until I do. I am not living in fear of Covid, although I respect the hell out of it and what it can do. I just like being alone. I am very content being in my own home and on my own property doing my own thing. I socialize as I see a need & not as society demands I do. So many people in our world do things out of pressure to fit in, to be accepted, liked, loved and admired. They act a certain way, do things they think are acceptable to the masses all so they appear "normal". These are the people overwhelmed with anxiety...these are the people that are the addicts, hateful, judgmental people....They are miserable and cannot admit it. 

See, I used to be that way...I worked, went to college, was the life the party, everyone loved me...except me...I would go home after all that and be miserable...I was tired, depressed, drained and hated my life...but, I kept it up because it's what society dictated to me and I believed was the way of life. In my early 30's life changed when my grandmother passed away. It was very hard but it was also then that I realized the life I was living was not the life I wanted. We had brick home in the suburbs, we both worked, we had 2 nice vehicles, we were by worldly standards living the dream...BUT we were not happy...we were simply going through the motions...At 35 we sold our home and moved deep into the country...that's were the story of life really begins...That's when things simplified...that's really when my mindful journey began even though I didn't realize it until many years later. So here I am, almost 20 years later, still making sense of peace, joy, happiness and mindful living. I certainly don't have all the answers to life's questions, but I do understand the benefit of stillness and quiet. Most people don't like quiet because to them its boring. Quietness is a blessing. It is where the answers lie, it is where we begin to find wisdom and figure out who we really are....

It is in the quiet stillness we hear the most....

We hear that still small voice...when we ask the questions, that small voice will answer...sadly most people do not want the answers, the real answers, the hard answers...the answers that matter...they want the answers that stroke their ego and feels good...they want the answers that align with their own ideals...they want answers that will further their selfish agenda...We only need to look as far as social media to see that. When we take the time to just be still, to be quiet to listen, then will we learn and grow.

I love the spring time and the newness of everything. I spend hours a day outside, sitting, thinking, listening, and pondering...I find nature has profound wisdom if we only listen to her...The birds singing show the beauty in a simple song, the flowers teach us to always turn our faces towards the sun and feel the warmth of the light, the trees teach us to stand tall even in the midst of the storms, the squirrels teach us to gather and store for the hard times, the earth helps ground us and keep us humble...so much to learn from the mother(nature). Sadly most are to busy to stop and take it all in....Introverts are full of things to say, they know far more than most understand...they are not all the things others think they are....they are the sages, the prophets, the shaman, the wise ones...don't dimiss them...they are not crazy, depressed or sad...If an introvert lets you in their world, keep them...they rarely let anyone in so just know if you are in their life....you are there for a reason....pay attention!

Much love and light,

Sunday, January 17, 2021

Food for thought

 All over the place you see and hear people fearing their rights being taken away, their democratic way of life being trampled on, fear of socialism, communism, martial law etc...but these same people are so scared that they are doing the very things that will surely cause that to happen...riots, insurrections and calling for war! Think about that. 



Saturday, January 16, 2021

A long couple of weeks

 Not long after my last post my 10 month old grand daughter fell very ill. after 3 doctors visits my daughter took her to a local childrens hospital where she was admitted and diagnosed with Covid-19. My daughter, son in law and 2.5 year grand daughter all were diagnosed. All are doing ok. The baby was released day before yesterday and is doing well. My daughter is doing really well along with the 2.5 year old. My son in law is still struggling a bit. 

I'm to tired right now to go into all the details of what happened and i'm still to angry! I'm angry at the people that disregard this as a serious illness for many. They make light of it by calling it everything but what it is COVID-19! One of my pet peeves! This is not racial or political...its a virus!! My family has been through hell with this. They told my daughter had the baby not gotten to the hospital when she did the baby would have died! DIED! Very traumatic to hear as a young mom 24 years old!

I'm still processing all we've been through so it may be a few more days before I have my thoughts together enough to post anything worthwhile. I just wanted to check in and say i'm still here. Take care, stay safe, stay positive and test negative!


Tuesday, January 5, 2021

Leaving it behind

Leaving all these behind in 2020 and moving forward in 2021 with things that are for my highest and best good! I hope you all do the same! Many of us deserve better than what we allow in our lives!


 

Monday, January 4, 2021

Reflection

I typically try to do my end of year reflection post closer to the first, but this year I got busy and didn't find the time. I've taken the time to be quiet and just reflect on this past year. I believe with all trials, no matter how big or small, come lessons. Most of the time we are to wrapped up in the issue to take time to learn the lesson(s) we are meant to learn. I am really no different, I've been rather down as of late, so much going on in the world and in my heart and head its been difficult to sort it all out. I've seen and heard things this year that disturb me deeply. I have had to pull away from people and things that stole my peace and joy, I need to focus on learning what I am here to learn. I look around at the turmoil in our country, and my heart breaks...I ask myself why are people so mean, so hateful...truthfully, I have no answers, other than they are human and humans want to be right at all cost....I sit here on my little slice of earth and feel alone so much of the time...not 'lonely' necessarily but alone in my way of thinking, my values, my beliefs. I see all the hate and the tension and I just can't grasp the mindset of such people...I have come to one conclusion as to why some are the way they are.... that is that fact that they get so caught up in the way things in their mind were suppost to be that they can't accept the reality of the way things are....Change is hard for many, but it is also inevitable...without change we cannot grow as people. Change takes us from our comfort zone and puts us in unfamiliar territory and that is hard....The Buddha once said that it is not change that is difficult but the resistance to it.(paraphrased) I couldn't agree more! I am not one to like change but I know from my own experience the more I fight it the more unhappy and frustrated I become, so it's best to feel the feelings, deal with the emotions and move on....See, change is going to happen regardless if you want it to, so you might as well just accept it and move on with life...learn the lessons to help you grow as a person. 

This year I've learned many things about myself and other people and lessons have been horribly hard at times. 

I've learned no matter who you are or what you do there is always going to be someone not like or agree with you.

I've learned people are not always who they appear to be and if your instincts tell you to beware, then beware!

I've learned that just because I believe something with all my heart doesn't mean others have to. All you can do is educate, what they take from the education is up to them.

I've learned that even in the midst of the most horrific storm there is always good to be found.

I've learned its important to our mental and emotional health to be true to who we are regardless of the back lash...those meant to be in your life will accept you and love you. Let go of those that are not accepting.

I've learned kindness will get you further than hatefulness

I've learned if  your politics and religion define your friendships, you need to find new friends!

I've learned I deserve friends that value me and my time. That love me unconditionally and those that can't really aren't my people.

I've learned it's ok to reinvent who you are how many ever times you wish to do so. You are the only one you have to live with daily, so love yourself, accept yourself(flaws and all), and be kind to yourself.

I've learned it's ok to hurt and cry even after years have passed. Love doesn't die just because the person did or the relationship ended. True love will endure forever.

But mostly I've learned that its ok to distance yourself from those that exude negativity at every turn. Negative energy is very harmful to those exposed. I had to let go of friendships that were negative and toxic, I am off facebook due the toxic nature of so many people. I am a person that absorbs other peoples energy no matter how hard I try not to, I just do...so I had to get away. I have to take time to unwind, relax, meditate and just let go and recharge. I am keenly aware of the situation in our country, but I am also keenly aware I am the only one that can choose my attitude towards the situation. Being

ugly, negative, spewing hate and toxcicity everywhere I go, serves no good purpose other than to make me look ignorant...If I am supportive, positive and encouraging of others my impact is far greater.

Life is a boomerang, what you put out, you get back...you choose....put out negative you will be a miserable human being, with all manner of problems and issues. Put out positivity and you will fare much better in life with positive things happening for you. I am not not saying being positive negates you from experiencing bad or traumatic things, I am just saying day to day living will be much easier to cope with during those stressful time. Positive people attract positive things and negative people attract negative things. I am also not saying to not see a situation for what it is, truth is not always positive, but being truthful will bring about positive change in the long term. Decide this year what you want to do with they rest of you life and then set goals and make it happen! Stay positive even in this time of uncertainty and great things will happen for you. Hang in there, stay safe, stay positive and spread kindness!

Friday, January 1, 2021


 

New Beginnings

I am so excited for new beginnings this year! So many plans we have made and I’m looking forward to them coming to fruition. It’s been a very hard year for so many, I hope this year is better for us all. Stay safe and stay grateful for all you have!